When Romance meets Insecure Feelings

Why do you fall in love with somebody? The typical answer will be 'to share, care and live together'. But there is a hidden aspect behind all these realms of love, 'security. Lovers feel secure at the presence of the sweethearts. The word security denotes the mental emotional security than the physical one. You feel elevated in spirit and respected, when you have a lover to hold next to your heart. The mutual sharing and caring may render you the pleasures of true love.

But what if you feel insecurity in your love relationship? All the relationships on earth is supposed to make you feel secure in different aspects of life like emotional, physical, financial etc...

Romance adorns the top most rank in the list of relationships and how disastrous it would be if such a divine relationship won't make you happy but make you feel insecure?

How can we define insecurity feeling? Or on what do you depend for your sense of security? The simplest answer is that if you feel confident enough, if you are at peace with yourself you have all the rights to feel secure. Just like one plus one equals two, for joining hands with your lover you should have doubled confident, doubled peace of mind and of course doubled feeling of security. It is common among lovers that they feel insecurity in the relationship. There could be so many reasons behind the feeling of insecurity. Negative self images, attitudes towards life, unable to know and understand your lover, disability to cop up with changing life situations, lack of trust etc... can bring the feeling of insecurity in you.

When you fall in love it changes lot of things in your life. Added responsibility to spare your life for your lover, make you duty bound. The different adjustments and changing attitudes in life may pressurize you. All these in way can lead you to the feeling of insecurity. Your lover is a possession for you and if you happened to realise that your sweet heart never cares for your feelings and never respects your individuality, there are expanded chances of falling into the insecurity feeling. Negative self image causes insecurity for some people. If you feel that you are not a perfect match for your lover and if you have within you the seed of inferiority complex, it is no wonder if you feel insecurity. The worries regarding your relationship with your partner that one day the affair will come to an end, although things may be going still, may bulge stress in you thus creating the feeling of insecurity.

Once you have realised that you feel insecure with your romantic relationship, there are effective solutions to keep the unnecessary worries and struggles away. The most important is to live in the world of realities. When you live in over expectations and impossible fantasies, life may feel insecure. No one can make you secure and confident other than yourself. You may have found a reasonable sense of security in your life and are relatively self-confident. Rather than expecting your lover to live in favor to your wishes and opinions, proceed in your relationship in mutual trust and understanding. That for sure is the way to success in your life.