How can I go on after the breakup?

After a breakup or divorce, thoughts like these may crossyour mind once-- or many, many times:  "I don't know how I will go on without her."  "How will I ever make it without him in my life?"  Especially if the breakup was not your idea, you may behaving a difficult time grappling with the prospect ofliving life without the relationship that just ended.  Where you sit right now, it might seem nearly impossible for you to go on without the man or woman you used to (and maybe still do) love.  Even if you agree that ending the relationship is truly forthe best and even if breaking up has brought some relief,you might also worry about how you will make it on your own.For some people, the idea of being alone is scary and makesthem...

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5 ways to help you get over your breakup pain faster‏

We all talk to ourselves all of the time and this is what we calling'self talk.' These thoughts come and go in our minds and they caneither help us go through life with relative ease or struggling atevery step of the way.In our experience, this 'self talk' can either keep you stuck in thepast--mulling over what went wrong or what you should have donedifferently--or stuck in the future--worrying about what might happen at some point down the road.Or 'self talk' can help you to stay in the present moment, dealingpractically with what's happening right now, and move powerfully andpositively into your future.One of the best kept secrets is that you can change your thoughts.Believe it or not, many people learn how to do it.Here are 5 ways to change 'self talk' to help you ease your pain from...

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Afraid you're never going to get over this feeling after your break-up?‏

If you've ever felt like you're never going to get over this feeling after your breakup You might feel like the sadness, anger and other intense emotions are here to stay.It can even seem like little else is going on in your lifebut your broken heart pain. We're here to tell you that your can heal. No matter howtroubling your breakup was, you can feel better, even happy,again. It all starts with a choice and a shift. Make the choice to heal. As simplistic as it may sound, when you make a deliberatedecision to turn toward healing, you can often make hugestrides toward that goal. Sometimes, we cling to our painful thoughts and memoriesaround the breakup because we are afraid that if we let goof the agony, we will negate any chance there might be(especially...

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Depressed after your breakup? Here's some good advice...

When you watch television or read a magazine, it's hard tomiss the many ads for prescription medications used to treatdepression. As you hear the symptoms of depression listed on air or themagazine page, you might begin to wonder if your brokenheart pain has turned into full-blown clinical depression. This is a valid concern. If you are depressed, it isimportant that you obtain the help you need to move throughthis difficult time. However, rushing to your doctor to get a prescription fordepression medication does not necessarily have to be yournext step. We don't want you to take risks with your mental health andwe are not trained to diagnose depression or any othermedical condition. We do want to share with you some information that can helpyou find greater ease and...

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One way to support yourself as you go through your break-up...‏

Open Up to Support As You Go Through Your Break-UpThere are support groups for just about everything thesedays. You can find these groups on the internet and at yourchurch or community center. Support groups for those who are going through divorce or abreakup are certainly available. The potential challenge with such groups is that they don'talways provide the kind of support that you might truly needin order to heal your broken heart. Don't get us wrong. We are not advising you to steer clearof support groups. What we do encourage you to do is to become clear about whatspecific kind of support you want and then make sure thatthe group or resource will provide that. "Surround yourself with only people who are going to liftyou higher," talk show host, philanthropist...

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Will your heart ever heal from your break up?‏

We're here to tell you that you can heal. No matter howtroubling your breakup was, you can feel better, even happy,again. It all starts with a choice and a shift. We know that sounds like we're minimizing your pain butbelieve us when we say that that's not the case.We know how painful a break up can be and we alsoknow that it doesn't feel like a choice--but if you willbear with us, we'll explain. Make the choice to heal.As simplistic as it may sound, when you make a deliberatedecision to turn toward healing, you can often start feelingbetter quicker than you thought possible. Sometimes, we cling to our painful thoughts and memoriesaround the breakup because we are afraid that if we let goof the agony, we will negate any chance there might be(especially in our minds) of...

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A celebration of passion, spark, and connection can stay alive and grow deeper through years of being together

The spark doesn't have to die whetheryou've been together 5 minutes or 50years. Here are a few ideas we've learned alongthe way that help us stay deeply connected...1. Find ways to focus on what you like aboutyour partner instead of what you don't like.You know the saying, "You get what youfocus on in life"?Well it's certainly true when it comes toyour relationship.Finding the "juice" and milking it for all it'sworth (while not ignoring something that's so in your face that you need to take some action) is what it's about.*You can focus on a part of your partner'sbody that you absolutely love.*You can focus on ways your partner lovesyou instead of ways he/she doesn't.*You can focus on being present with whatyou're enjoying in the moment with yourpartner instead of what happened...

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4 Steps to Healing From a Breakup or Divorce.

We know that you're probably in a lot of pain right now becauseof your break-up and you may wonder if you'll ever feel "normal"again.  We're here to tell you that even though you may think your painwill never end, if you take some simple steps, you will start tofeel some relief.  Read how one woman healed after her break-up... Christine As Christine told us, many steps can be of value as you heal after a break-up or divorce. If we could boil our experiences both personally and professionally in helping others heal from break-ups or divorces, there are four big steps that can help most peoplestart to feel better.  If you're in pain right now, we invite you to experiment with these suggestions... 1. Acknowledge your pain. Acknowledging your pain while not drowning in...

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4 Ways To Deal With Upsets, Anger and Anything Else

We've all experienced this at one time or another. Something happens, and we completely overreact. We get upset, defensive and irritable and we don't even want to (or can't) listen to what our partner is saying. Even though we just want to make him or her hear and understand how we feel, we come off as demanding and angry. The last thing we want to do in that moment is to understand where our partner is coming from, or what he or she is going through. Our partner has pushed a button and our automatic response goes something like this... "You hurt my feelings, it's not right and I'm going to let you have it!" We all do this but unfortunately when this happens it never brings the two of you closer. In fact, it brings more tension, stress and a lot of unresolved conflict. Here's a "button-pushing"...

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3 Keys To Stopping the Pain of a Broken Heart‏

It doesn't matter whether you were the one who left or you were theone who was left--there is usually a mixture of emotions that comeup. There could be regret, sadness, resentment, relief, loss, griefand a mixture of all of those.Whatever you are feeling right now, we know that at the very bottom it,there is probably some kind of pain.It can show up differently as emotional pain or physical pain--or amixture of both.When one woman we know experienced a divorce, she actually hadphysical pain in her heart. She was so grief-stricken that shethought she was having a heart attack. In an extreme case such asthis, you need to be checked out by a physician--but the point isthat there is very real pain after a breakup or divorce.So the question is...How do you stop the pain?The funny thing about...

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5 signs he isn't over his ex

When you are in a new relationship, it’s natural to wonder about the ex. Does he think about her? If so, how much and is he really over her? These are questions that plague many women.Perhaps you’d like to know whether or not the ex is still on his mind. There are signs you can look for, that may tell you whether or not he is really over that relationship. Below are a few that will help you in your quest to find out. He talks about her frequently This usually means one of two things. Either he is not over her or he isn’t over something that happened between them. Pay attention to how he talks about her. If he does so lovingly, this may be cause for concern. If, on the other hand, her name often comes up when the two of you are talking about a particular issue or situation, chances are he...

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Why People Fail To Create The Red Hot Relationship They Want...‏ FREE e-course - DAY 2

Perhaps one of the biggest reasons people fail in creating andkeeping a red hot love relationship is that they quit having funtogether.As love relationships mature, one of the first things to go by thewayside is having fun together. The two people usually settle forwatching television or surfing the internet, often by themselves.They just quit doing the things that used to be fun for them andthey don't even open themselves to new ways to have fun together.Whether you used to have fun bowling, walking in the woodstogether, eating out without the kids, bike-riding, dancing,watching a funny movie together or any other activity that was funfor the two of you--if you want a red hot love relationship, startdoing some of those things again.In order to keep your connection strong, you have to find...

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Red Hot Love Relationships - DAY 1...FREE E-course

If we could sum up how to create a red hot love relationship in 3Steps here's what they would be... Step 1:  Be open to the possibility that you can create what you         want Before the two of us came together, independent of each other, webegan to take on the belief that it was possible to havefriendship, passion, love and connection­-all in one relationship.Even though both of us had just ended our previous relationships,we took on the belief that we could have what we wanted, evenbefore we began our relationship.  Step 2: Be open to trying some new things and possibly making somechanges in your life and in your relationship that will move youcloser to what you want.  It's certainly a fact that if you keep doing...

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Ideas about how to keep your relationship passionate, alive and growing over the years...

Here are a few ideas about how to keep your relationship passionate, alive and growing overthe years...1. Make small changes and look for what happensfor the better.Try one suggestion--make one small change in theway you interact with your partner-- and look for one small thing that is better.It might be that you've gotten into a habit of puttingyour partner down--maybe in fun--but it's no longerfunny to him or her, if it ever was.One small change might be to stop when you feelthe urge to make fun of your partner and insteaddon't say anything or give him or her a compliment.Maybe your partner puts you down and it's meantas a joke but you don't think it's funny. One small change might be to tell him or her howit feels to you. "It may not have been your intention to hurt me...

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New FREE Mini e -course to begin on MONDAY 6th June

Hi Faithful Followers This is just brief message to inform everyone that my NEW mini e-course regarding creating more love, passion, connection and a "Red Hot Love Relationship." will commence on monday the 6th June. The last FREE mini course i did had a great response. This time around the course will run for 5 days so sign up for free emails right into your inbox to ensure that you don't miss out. Thanks Nicole...

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The 3 Minute Break-Up Pain Stopping Technique

Here's a very simple technique that takes 3 minutes that you can practice anytime you start to feel overwhelmed by your fearful, angry feelings and negative thoughts. Use this technique when your negative thoughts and feelings are keeping you from functioning in your daily life and you want to shift them to more empowering ones. Negative thoughts and feelings can become a habit but they can also be changed.SIT--Sit in a quiet place. (The bathroom will do).   SETTLE--Close your eyes, take a few deep breaths, bringing your breath into your feet so that you feel grounded and connected to the earth. Feel yourself slowing down and your breathing deepen. (Maybe 30 seconds)   AWARENESS--Come into awareness of your negative thoughts in this moment. (What exactly are you thinking? Example:...

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You Can Be In Love for Life

It has always been the fantasy. To meet the man or woman of your dreams and to live blissfully together until death do you part. Problem is that half of all marriages end in divorce. And yes, I know that according to some, this particular statistic isn't all that accurate, but the truth is that breaking up is, at best, a painful process, and most of us have had more experience with it than we care to remember.It has been known for a very long time that those in healthy marriages or long-term relationships have lower mortality rates and better immune systems, and now scientists are attributing lower stress levels to those fortunate enough to be in loving committed relationships. So who wouldn't want love with benefits like a longer life and soul-warming affection?Well, once you've had a bad...

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