4 Steps to Healing From a Breakup or Divorce.

We know that you're probably in a lot of pain right now because

of your break-up and you may wonder if you'll ever feel "normal"

again. 

 

We're here to tell you that even though you may think your pain

will never end, if you take some simple steps, you will start to

feel some relief.

 

Read how one woman healed after her break-up...

Christine

As Christine told us, many steps can be of value as you heal
after a break-up or divorce.

If we could boil our experiences both personally and

professionally in helping others heal from break-ups or

divorces, there are four big steps that can help most people

start to feel better.

 

If you're in pain right now, we invite you to experiment

with these suggestions...

1. Acknowledge your pain.

Acknowledging your pain while not drowning in it is your first step
to healing your broken heart. Give yourself permission to grieve the
loss of the relationship, even if you were the one who left, and
also give yourself permission to reach out to people who uplift you.

2. Accept the reality of your situation.

Don't see your situation worse than or better than it was. When
there is a relationship breakup or divorce, you might be living with
a lot of what ifs and wishing that it was different or the way it
used to be.

You might be seeing yourself as a victim or feeling very guilty.
Bringing yourself into the reality of the present moment without
making up untrue stories about your situation is one of the biggest
things you can do.

3. Realize what you learned by being in this relationship.

There are always gifts that come with any relationship. It might be
some realization that you learned about yourself, what you want, or
what you don't want in your life. How did this relationship make you
stronger or even a better person?

Be angry if you need to but allow it to pass through your body

without hanging onto it. Go outside and take a walk if you need

to shift your attention to something other than how you've been

hurt.

4. Take time to discover who you are now that you are no longer in
that relationship and what you want for your future.

What interests do you have that you have ignored for a long time?
What things have you not done for yourself that you would like to do
again? How can you love yourself? Getting to know you and what you
want for your future is vital to your getting over a breakup or
divorce.

Even though everyone's healing journey is different, we've discovered
that these four steps are at the very foundation of getting over a
breakup or divorce and moving on with your life.