The spark doesn't have to die whether
you've been together 5 minutes or 50
years.
Here are a few ideas we've learned along
the way that help us stay deeply connected...
1. Find ways to focus on what you like about
your partner instead of what you don't like.
You know the saying, "You get what you
focus on in life"?
Well it's certainly true when it comes to
your relationship.
Finding the "juice" and milking it for all it's
worth (while not ignoring something that's
so in your face that you need to take some
action) is what it's about.
*You can focus on a part of your partner's
body that you absolutely love.
*You can focus on ways your partner loves
you instead of ways he/she doesn't.
*You can focus on being present with what
you're enjoying in the moment with your
partner instead of what happened in the
past or fears of what could happen in the
future.
2. Practice coming toward one another.
We were at a gathering with friends this
past weekend and during the evening, the
two of us briefly danced together.
One of our friends remarked that he really
enjoyed seeing the way the two of us looked
in each other's eyes and how the love poured
out--as we were dancing.
We make a practice of connecting even in
large groups of people and it can be something
simple like making eye contact from across
the room, a touch on the arm as we pass
each other or an embrace as we dance
together.
you've been together 5 minutes or 50
years.
Here are a few ideas we've learned along
the way that help us stay deeply connected...
1. Find ways to focus on what you like about
your partner instead of what you don't like.
You know the saying, "You get what you
focus on in life"?
Well it's certainly true when it comes to
your relationship.
Finding the "juice" and milking it for all it's
worth (while not ignoring something that's
so in your face that you need to take some
action) is what it's about.
*You can focus on a part of your partner's
body that you absolutely love.
*You can focus on ways your partner loves
you instead of ways he/she doesn't.
*You can focus on being present with what
you're enjoying in the moment with your
partner instead of what happened in the
past or fears of what could happen in the
future.
2. Practice coming toward one another.
We were at a gathering with friends this
past weekend and during the evening, the
two of us briefly danced together.
One of our friends remarked that he really
enjoyed seeing the way the two of us looked
in each other's eyes and how the love poured
out--as we were dancing.
We make a practice of connecting even in
large groups of people and it can be something
simple like making eye contact from across
the room, a touch on the arm as we pass
each other or an embrace as we dance
together.
Believe us when we say that it can make all
the difference in the world in your relationship!
This practice of coming toward one another--
whether the two of you are at home alone, your
kids are in the house with you or you're with
other people--is an intimate moment that you're
telling each other how much your relationship
means to you.
It's a way to celebrate your love, every day
instead of just on special occasions.
3. Learn how to stay open to listening and
speaking your truth--even when it's uncomfortable
to do it.
Many of peopl have told us that
communication is your biggest challenge--and
we certainly know that can be true because
we've experienced our own challenges with it.
But we've also learned a few things about staying
open to each other when we disagree and want
to close down our hearts to one another.
the difference in the world in your relationship!
This practice of coming toward one another--
whether the two of you are at home alone, your
kids are in the house with you or you're with
other people--is an intimate moment that you're
telling each other how much your relationship
means to you.
It's a way to celebrate your love, every day
instead of just on special occasions.
3. Learn how to stay open to listening and
speaking your truth--even when it's uncomfortable
to do it.
Many of peopl have told us that
communication is your biggest challenge--and
we certainly know that can be true because
we've experienced our own challenges with it.
But we've also learned a few things about staying
open to each other when we disagree and want
to close down our hearts to one another.
1 comments:
Indeed eye contact is one of the most important parts of positive Flirt Body Language when you are dating.
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