Monday, May 9, 2011

Passionate Heart Relationship Mini Course - DAY 3

A little known secret about creating a great relationship is...

The importance of living by the Platinum Rule instead of the Golden
Rule.

When we were young, most of us were taught the Golden Rule.  

This may surprise you but we think using the Golden Rule as a
guideline for your relationships is a recipe for disaster and here's
why.

The Golden Rule says this: "Do unto others as you'd have them do unto
you."   The problem with the Golden Rule is that we are all unique
individuals and no one else in the entire world is exactly like you.

In relationships, people mistakenly believe that everyone else wants
to do things and live in the same way they do.

No matter how close, how connected and how much you love someone
else, they are not exactly like you. Because they are not exactly
like you, they have different wants, needs and interests--some more
important than others. They also come from a different set of life
experiences, circumstances and what they consider to be important.

The truth of the matter is that other people don't want to be "done
unto"  as you'd like to be "done unto."  

We suggest you honor the Platinum Rule which says, "Do unto others as
they want to be 'done unto.'"

This means that you love them how they really want to be loved.  This
also means that you treat them the way they want to be treated.

To honor this rule, we recommend that you tell your mate, partner or
people in your life how you would like to be "done unto" instead
of allowing guesswork, assumptions and misunderstandings to ruin
relationships.

This involves taking a risk. Perhaps for some people, maybe the
biggest risk of all is working through fears of not being loved if
you say what you really want or how you really feel.

So we suggest that instead of assuming and creating
misunderstandings, both of you communicate your wants, needs and
interests to those in your life. This way, by communicating openly
and honestly, the chances of you and your partner getting what you
each want in your life and your relationships are much greater than
if you don't.

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