Today begins the first step.
Are you ready?
So, let's begin with your first lesson:
Lesson 1
If we could sum up what it takes to make a great relationship with
three simple ideas, here's what they would be...
1. Keep relationship a priority
2. Learn to embrace differences as a good thing and not what you
need to change in someone else
3. Focus on what you like, love, appreciate about the other person
instead of what you don't
There are actually many things that go into creating a great
relationship but these are three ideas that we believe are critical.
*Idea one*
Keep your relationship a priority.
When couples come together, they often spend a lot of time getting to
know one another and having fun together. Then, when children enter
the picture or careers become demanding, their intention to spend
time together gets buried and lost in the busyness of everyday
activities.
What we are suggesting is to make it your intention to spend time
together, really being together, even if it's to sit and talk alone
for a few moments over coffee.
Make your relationship a priority in your life. Set aside time
everyday to connect with your partner and don't take one moment for
granted.
*Idea Two*
Learn to embrace differences as a good thing and not what you need to
change in someone else.
To truly have a great relationship, there has to be mutual
appreciation of what each person brings to the relationship-and that
even includes the differences that drive us crazy!
Here are some things we've learned about differences: First, become
aware of your differences and don't assume that your partner thinks
just like you think and his/her priorities are just like yours. Next,
talk about these differences and share what is important to you.
Remember to listen with an open heart and not judge. Just because
someone likes to do something in a little different way than you
doesn't mean it isn't the "right" way. Look at your preconceived
notions about the "right" ways to do things.
If there are conflicts about the ways in which things are done or
where the priorities are placed, we recommend that you devise a new
way of doing things. Perhaps a third way that might be even better
than the two previous ways of looking at or doing things. Turn your
attention to appreciating each other's gifts instead of holding onto
what you think is the "right way" to do it.
*Idea Three*
Focus on what you like, love, appreciate about the other person
instead of what you don't.
In many relationships, there is the temptation to take each other for
granted after a number of years or even months of being together.
When that happens, one or both people in the relationship begin to
"pick" at each other and their "faults" seem to magnify.
We're not saying to ignore what needs to be said between the two of
you. What we are saying is to focus on what you want more of in your
relationship instead of what you want less of. Sounds like common
sense but very few people actually do it.
If you are not feeling loved and appreciated yourself, start being
open to seeing and feeling love and appreciation that people are
giving you that you may not be aware of in your daily life. Start
seeing and appreciating what your partner does "right." Take the
time, in your thoughts, words and actions, to be appreciative of the
other person and watch how your relationship blossoms!
Are you ready?
So, let's begin with your first lesson:
Lesson 1
If we could sum up what it takes to make a great relationship with
three simple ideas, here's what they would be...
1. Keep relationship a priority
2. Learn to embrace differences as a good thing and not what you
need to change in someone else
3. Focus on what you like, love, appreciate about the other person
instead of what you don't
There are actually many things that go into creating a great
relationship but these are three ideas that we believe are critical.
*Idea one*
Keep your relationship a priority.
When couples come together, they often spend a lot of time getting to
know one another and having fun together. Then, when children enter
the picture or careers become demanding, their intention to spend
time together gets buried and lost in the busyness of everyday
activities.
What we are suggesting is to make it your intention to spend time
together, really being together, even if it's to sit and talk alone
for a few moments over coffee.
Make your relationship a priority in your life. Set aside time
everyday to connect with your partner and don't take one moment for
granted.
*Idea Two*
Learn to embrace differences as a good thing and not what you need to
change in someone else.
To truly have a great relationship, there has to be mutual
appreciation of what each person brings to the relationship-and that
even includes the differences that drive us crazy!
Here are some things we've learned about differences: First, become
aware of your differences and don't assume that your partner thinks
just like you think and his/her priorities are just like yours. Next,
talk about these differences and share what is important to you.
Remember to listen with an open heart and not judge. Just because
someone likes to do something in a little different way than you
doesn't mean it isn't the "right" way. Look at your preconceived
notions about the "right" ways to do things.
If there are conflicts about the ways in which things are done or
where the priorities are placed, we recommend that you devise a new
way of doing things. Perhaps a third way that might be even better
than the two previous ways of looking at or doing things. Turn your
attention to appreciating each other's gifts instead of holding onto
what you think is the "right way" to do it.
*Idea Three*
Focus on what you like, love, appreciate about the other person
instead of what you don't.
In many relationships, there is the temptation to take each other for
granted after a number of years or even months of being together.
When that happens, one or both people in the relationship begin to
"pick" at each other and their "faults" seem to magnify.
We're not saying to ignore what needs to be said between the two of
you. What we are saying is to focus on what you want more of in your
relationship instead of what you want less of. Sounds like common
sense but very few people actually do it.
If you are not feeling loved and appreciated yourself, start being
open to seeing and feeling love and appreciation that people are
giving you that you may not be aware of in your daily life. Start
seeing and appreciating what your partner does "right." Take the
time, in your thoughts, words and actions, to be appreciative of the
other person and watch how your relationship blossoms!
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