Verbal abuse: why you need to get out!

What’s the difference between verbal and physical abuse? There is no difference. We constantly hear about counselling and protection centres available for physically abused people, but not much mention is given publically about verbal abuse.  

Don’t let anyone control you

The basic definition of verbal abuse is the use of language for the purposes of control by someone with a low regard for him or herself. The operative word here is control.  

No relationship will be a good one if one person wants or has control! 

If you stay in the relationship and let that person control you, you will become compliant. The abuse chips away at your self esteem and self worth, and no human being deserves that or should put up with it. There is no physical evidence to the outside world of this kind of abuse, so it leaves you battling emotionally with a deep and hurtful secret.

Don’t waste your life in a verbally abusive relationship

It also leaves you doubting yourself, wondering if it’s your fault or if you’re the cause of such unreasonable abuse. If you can honestly say that you do not provoke this behaviour, plan your exit. Why waste your energy on learning how to deal with it? It won’t change. That person has issues, not you.

Never lower your principles

It’s a scary decision to make, and more difficult to up and leave if you have children to consider, but if you continue to tolerate the abuse, you’re lowering your values. You’re coming down to the other person’s low regard for respect and appreciation – and they have won! You will live your life avoiding situations and losing your independence and personality.

Verbally abused? Get out!

Leave – or tell them to leave until they’ve learnt (with professional help) to respect you and the relationship. Don’t let it get you down anymore – look in the mirror and laugh, and say I am beautiful – every day. No person has the right to verbally abuse another, and if they can’t recognize that they’re doing it, get out of the situation.